Intro
For a long time, many of us were taught that choosing ourselves meant letting others down. We learned to equate self-sacrifice with goodness and exhaustion with worth. But constantly putting yourself last doesn’t make you noble—it makes you depleted. Choosing yourself isn’t about abandoning others; it’s about refusing to abandon yourself. It’s the decision to honor your needs, protect your energy, and show up to your life whole instead of worn thin.
Tips for Choosing Yourself Without Guilt
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Recognize the Cost of Overgiving
If saying yes leaves you resentful, drained, or disconnected from yourself, that’s information—not failure. Pay attention to how your choices affect your well-being. -
Set Clear, Simple Boundaries
You don’t need long explanations. “I can’t do that right now” is enough. Boundaries don’t require permission. -
Separate Discomfort from Wrongdoing
Feeling uncomfortable after choosing yourself doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice. Growth often feels unfamiliar. -
Stop Waiting for Validation
Not everyone will understand your decisions—and they don’t have to. Your life doesn’t need unanimous approval. -
Treat Your Needs as Non-Negotiable
Rest, peace, and time are not luxuries. They are requirements for sustainability.
Conclusion
Choosing yourself is not an act of selfishness; it’s an act of self-respect. It’s deciding that your well-being matters just as much as everyone else’s. When you stop betraying yourself to keep the peace, you create a life that actually feels like yours. And from that place—healthy, grounded, and whole—you can give to others without losing yourself in the process.
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